If you want to build a ship, don’t drum up the men to gather wood, divide the work and give orders. Instead, teach them to yearn for the vast and endless sea.
- Antoine de Saint-Exupéry
You don’t have to be Steve Jobs, equipped with a Reality Distortion Field to make it happen. You just have to take the time needed to practice and prepare. So, to help with that, here are three tips to help you on your way to Charisma-based leadership:
1. Talk about something you’re passionate about.
People will always notice when you’re speaking about something from the heart. I believe that there are some people in this world who can talk about postage stamp glue in a way that would keep me riveted and on the edge of my seat. I also believe that if I tried to give that same speech, I’d do such as poor job that people would reconsider buying a postage reader just to avoid the substance at all costs. So when possible, stick to things that are deeply meaningful to you.
2. Smile – you’ll put everyone at ease, including yourself.
When I first went roller skating, I noticed signs around the rink that said “Keep Smiling”. Everyone stumbles every now and then, but if you can keep smiling you’ll keep right on skating. The same is true when speaking to people. Some people describe it like going on stage–regardless of how you’re feeling, try to find a reason to smile and then start talking. People will relax and trust your words, focusing on what you’re saying, rather than the grimace you’re sporting.
After all, who’s going to believe that the company just had its best quarter ever if you look like you just swallowed a toad?
3. Practice before you preach.
Some people psych themselves up in a mirror. Others practice, drilling their words over and over until it’s as natural as breathing. Myself, I talk to people a lot before giving an actual presentation, but I don’t share the actual presentation itself, jut the main talking points. Very ad-hoc, saying something along the lines of “This is what I was planning on talking about…” I find I get more authentic feedback on individual ideas than an entire, pre-planned speech.
Remember: Nobody is going to tell your baby is ugly to your face. It’s not in our nature to be blunt, or direct, especially if we think someone’s feelings might be hurt. So keep that in mind when receiving feedback.
Well, there you go. Three tips to help you inspire the hearts and mind of others. Hopefully you’ll use it to go out and raise $10mil to fight cancer or AIDS, rather than start a suicide cult. So here’s hoping 
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